Candid Thoughts on Our Marriage

After ten years of marriage, 2 years of dating and 1 year of pen-palling sometimes it's easy. We have a rhythm. There are still surprises and we don't know everything about each other. (Just almost everything). Marriage is work, a lot of hard work. I forget that when things are easy. Our lives can sometimes roll along, task after task. He does the dishes while I vacuum, he picks up BB from daycare while I prep for dinner. There are always things to do. Things need to be done but, perhaps more importantly, that face of his needs to be kissed, he needs to hear that I adore him and appreciate him, we need to hold hands and sit and talk. With our busy schedule we spend a lot of time talking about where he's going, what I'm doing, what needs to get done. We have to be here and there, then we'll eat dinner, then we'll put BB to bed and wash the dishes, fold the laundry and take a shower and then, only then, will we sit and chat about our day. It's exhausting raising a vivacious boy and working full time and balancing Dan's constant tour dates. Right now I'm in the thick of it. He's been gone since January 2nd and wont return until the 31st. A whole month without coming home and right in the middle of some of the best and craziest times in our life.

I'm so glad I just went for it. 19 years old and totally unaware of how awesome and hard and worthwhile life could be. I knew Dan loved me more than anyone could. I know that he is worth it. He may frustrate me at times, we argue, we disagree, but we always know that we are who we are because of the time we've spent together. I love this crazy, little life we've built. I love the insane, hilarious child that God has put in our care and I want him to know without a doubt that mama and daddy are crazy about each other.

We've made it through a lot. I dont want to forget that. I know we can handle anything that comes our way.